Last year I had the opportunity to write an article for a german women’s magazine about my experiences belonging to a minority of only 2% with an IQ of at least 130 and more (according to the german system). What I wrote was different from what most of the readers expected. I am a very normal person who simply has another perception plus the correlating high – sensitiveness. Translated: every emotional experience, all information I get or whatever I sens feels much more intense and takes more of my concentration, according to the information processing of the norm. That made and still makes life sometimes complicating, especially when I realize that the other 98% can’t imagine how I feel.
What for one part sounds maybe unsympathetic and unnecessary to speak out openly, for the affected, once diagnosed, turns out to become a fulfilling life, finally flowing and full of new possibilities, a real lifechanging caesura. It could mean the ‚allowance‘ for being creative and unconventional, and finally to develop the self – confidence for that.
Since the article was published I had so much interesting resonance. Even on facebook from all over the world. So I decided to write in English, too. I might give answers to a lot of important questions around our predisposition, which when undiscovered can lead to a lot of different problems. What life for the gifted, especially when they still live in an inadequate system, makes so stressful is the daily achievement of necessary adaptation to the others. I am not exaggerating. It is a real challenge. Every day. In many different contexts. And some of us fail.
In the contrary to my other blog on wordpress, which contains mainly short prose, here I am planning to tell about our 2 lives. The first one deals with the experiences of my school refusing and school absent son who prepares himself for the Abitur and already goes to University (since february he is 17 and history addicted for years now) and the second one is mine, as a ‚late discovered‘ and still struggling woman in a non matching job, but positively thinking and working hard on her new perspectives.
I am so glad that in the past I could help others to understand their relatives or themselves better. To have background information about what possibly c o u l d be the reason for e.g. constant unhappiness and blockades, a depressive child or mother, drug and alcohol abuse in a family, aggressive behaviour or the very bad feeling of being isolated and, one of the worst and often experienced situations, being regularly rejected by others (even by close family members) is the beginning of a solution. To find out what the possibly undiscovered gifted brings into a flow of emotions and their normally extremely fast thinking through accepting them for what they are and what they specially need, sometimes even saves lives.
Constant under requirement and what the consequences often are, an above average high energy level and typical misunderstandings due to a lack of knowledge about us, – that is what I would like to talk about in my future texts.
But, I think I do not have to make clear that there must have been hints before, within the family history, that such a possible predisposition could be the case. Not every depression, aggression or abuse of any tranquilizing substance is ’so comparably easy‘ to explain.
I intend to write as regularly as possible and I ask for your patience should you sometimes have to wait a little longer for a new text.
Here a very interesting and detailed site, for those of you who instantly would like to get more information: http://gifted-adults.com/
2 Gedanken zu “The invisible 2% and How gifted people cope with their everyday life”
I feel with you as I have experienced very similar life events. All my life I was an outsider and never fitted into any social group. My parents call me an alien since the age of four and when at the age of 10 we escaped from Hungary to then West Germany things got really hard for me and I have the scars to prove it. I was called a „Spinner“ and things I said were labeled crazy and utopian, yet most of it came to be true and often people adjusted and corrected their views and opinions about things later on, but I remained a „weirdo“.
It seems to me your life was not much different. The adaptation process has never worked for me and I remained a non-conformist to this day and learned to live with it.
I’m always delighted when I encounter someone having had the same experiences and is unwilling to accept society’s norms as what is right or wrong. To me life is not a „should be“ affair because it stagnates the individual mind and talent of natural development.
Thank you for pointing out the 2%
As I see the politics developing on the North American continent it is not very surprising to me what is happening. Although America wants to be seen as a democracy it is far from it. I have seen that when I lived in West Germany and was laughed at, then later in Canada during my travels there and in the US. It was evident that money was the thing that ruled and not the people as it supposed to be in a democracy. I’ve met many people that agreed with my statements about the order of things, but nobody did anything about them .They all wait for a leader to do the work for them.
But that is now the norm all over the world. The population is transformed into sheep through religions, kept ignorant through the school systems and stupefied with video games and TV propaganda.
There are a few people that the situation clearly, but are silenced by authorities, but conformity starts at in early childhood. We are taught and forced into conformity through four main educational methods; Guilt, Shame, Reward and Punishment. We forgot the two that yield the most pleasant and effective, harmony and understanding producing method: Love and patience.
Very few people understand it because it’s not taught anywhere. We no longer support each other; we exploit instead. People that see that and point it out are very few and when they are encountered, they will be forced into compliance or being ostracized.
We need people that are observant and courageous to speak up. We need to get together and exchange ideas, listen to new visions and then spread the message.